Comments on: Do You Believe ‘Negotiation’ Could Be Music To Your Ears?

By: Two Resources To Help You Score More Moola | Financially Smitten

Two Resources To Help You Score More Moola | Financially Smitten — Fri, 03 Jun 2011 18:37:58 +0000

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By: Are you asking for it? | AuthentiKate

Are you asking for it? | AuthentiKate — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 15:25:34 +0000

[...] was inspired to write about female financial power this morning after reading a post from Lora Sasiela of Financially Smitten on negotiation and how our ability to ask for what we’re worth gives us a much better return on [...]

By: Kate Northrup

Kate Northrup — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 14:17:28 +0000

I love this article and I think it’s so true! I remember the first time I negotiated for what I felt I was worth. I was 14 years old and a family with three kids had just paid me $20 to babysit for an entire day. I was livid. I called another woman I babysat for in the neighborhood for support and she suggested that I call the family back and tell them that my rate was much higher. I called the father of the family and told him my rate and that $20 to watch 3 kids for an entire day was unacceptable. I was completely terrified, of course. He was totally stunned that a 14 year old girl had the balls to stand up for herself. Recalling this story still makes me shake with nerves because it was so scary to negotiate, but I did it and it felt great. I never babysat for that family again, but I didn’t care because standing up for my worth felt amazing and I will never forget that moment. I ended up getting paid what I was worth and he got a good lesson in not taking advantage of young women. I know we’re both better for it. Thanks for inspiring me to take a walk down memory lane, Lora!

By: Sab

Sab — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 17:40:23 +0000

I find this a really interesting question. I’m in my twenties and from what i can tell, myself and my female friends who work or have worked full time employed for a company tend to believe that your salary is set when you start a contract, and if you’re lucky you’ll get a raise in time when your manager recognises your added value! I don’t think ‘we’ expect more money as such and are probably more understanding if a boss says ‘i’d love to give you more but we just don’t have the money right now’, especially in a recession!. I now work freelance so set my fee or negotiate it, and use salary/fee comparison sites to make sure i’m setting my wages at a fair price. I think confidence in the value of your work and skills helps you set your rate higher or ask for more – but personally i’ve found i’m more open to asking for more and keeping my doors open to getting more since working freelance/self-employed. A good thing about being able to value your own work and decide a price for it is it makes you feel less cap in hand, more in control. And that someone else isn’t putting a limit on your income which can make you feel… owned? or in a less favourable position in a financial relationship?